Today is a great day because its the day my perfect hubby (Brian) was born. Happy birthday babe, you better be reading this! I’m new to this whole blogging thing and couldn’t decide if I wanted to get personal, but Brian is such a large part of my life (obvs) and I love talking about him, so here we are. In honor of his bday, I’ll tell you guys a little about him and a little about us.
Brian is in the Marines but he’s set to get out this year and I could not be more excited to continue our life back home in Boston! Military relationships are definitely not the norm and can be super hard, so if there’s any military wives/gfs reading this, props to you, I feel your pain! He is deployed right now, but this is his last bday we will ever have to spend apart and that’s comforting. I get to see him in Hawaii this summer and spend a month there (my LAST month on that island, probably forever) and I’m really counting down the days. Time apart absolutely blows but we manage, even when it seems like its never ending. My husband is the most caring, kindest soul I have ever met. He’s also incredibly good looking, but is so much more than that too. He gets along with everyone and anyone, makes me laugh harder than I knew was possible, and always sees the brighter side of things and makes life better when I’m feeling a little negative. I can’t imagine life without him.. so that’s why I married him and now we are gladly stuck together forever.
I met my hub through some mutual college friends. His friend posted an instagram (honestly tg for instagram, it is the best social media platform ever)and made a joke about Brian needing a date to his Marine ball. I obviously commented on it, jokingly, and said “pick me!”. Then I thought more about my comment, and needed to make sure we had the same interests first, so I responded again and asked “does he like dogs?”, and Brian responded to me (and only me, sorry chicks), and said “I love dogs”, and it was game over from there. Okay not really game over, but basically I was in love. Then we finally met at a bar, made small talk, and I honestly was just thinking nothing of it at the time, and we didn’t talk for a good three months after that. THEN, his friend told me to text Brian one night when we were out, and I decided sure why not. Brian was back training and wasn’t even in MA anymore, but I texted him anyways and we just kept talking.. and talking. For the first time, I was talking to someone daily and not getting tired of it or bored. We talked all day and all night for another 3 months, basically had a virtual relationship, occasionally threw in some FaceTime, and then before I knew it he was coming home for pre-deployment leave. I picked him up from the airport (keep in mind we had only met in person once before but I truly didn’t care, even if a million other people were judging tf out of me LOL), and from there we were inseparable. Our friends were the same people, our new friends got along, we had sooo much fun for those two weeks and I was absolutely in shock when he had to go. A few nights before we left, we were out and joking/talking about getting married (we were both actually totally serious because the obsession was real), and we kept saying “when you know, you know!”. Well seriously, when you know, you know, and 3 months into deployment I started planning a small wedding. Now we’ve been married for over a year but it feels like we’ve been together for ten.
I know it sounds absolutely insane and no, I am not promoting or saying that you should marry the person you met on Tinder yesterday. BUT sometimes, you know when its right, and everything works and falls into place. There was zero pressure from either one of us, we both just knew what we wanted and made it happen. I somehow had our wedding planning in less than two months (actually my mom had it planned because she’s the best mom and totally took charge), had all the details work out, found the perfect dress, the right venue, etc. all in such a short time, it was like it was meant to be. Obviously I got a ton of shit from random people and friends, some talked about it behind my back, and that honestly doesn’t matter and I hope if that’s happening to you, you don’t let it affect you either. Your relationship is about you and your significant other, and what you choose to do is your own choice, don’t base it off of anyone else. I was IN LOVE and I still am and it has only gotten better. There are going to be hard times, and there will be people who try and ruin it and rain on your parade, but that’s life. We didn’t do anything the “traditional way”. He proposed when he got home from deployment (it was still a big surprise, I legit almost fainted and forgot to say yes because I was so nervous) but our wedding was already booked and happening LOL. Here’s a pic of the proposal:
I honestly wouldn’t have wanted it any other. We had a 50 person wedding, had a good friend be the JP, and it was the best time of my life and if we could get married again once a year, I would totally do that and do it the same exact way (except with a different dress every time because how often do you get to wear a white dress?!). We spent a majority of our first year of marriage in Hawaii (who gets to do that?), and even though we’ve had a bunch of time apart, we make it work the best way we know how, and I didn’t know it was possible to love someone so much. Whether you’ve been with someone 5 years or 5 months, your feelings are YOUR feelings, and you can do what you want with them. Time doesn’t really matter and you don’t have to do EVERYTHING the way that people are expected to do things. In no way am I saying you should rush to get married, or rush to date someone, I honestly never thought much about marriage before I met my hub, but things change when it’s the right person. If it feels right, then at least go with it and see what happens. Love is really all that matters in the end, as cliche and sappy as that sounds LOL. The people who truly love you will be happy for you and support you, and honestly, goodbye to the rest.
This was a long blog, and I could definitely go on forever about our non-traditional love story. Do any of you have wild love stories? Or is anyone else in a temporary long distance relationship? I’d love to hear about it! Comment below 🙂